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I class myself as HSP - A Highly Sensitive Person (Google it, it's a genuine thing). There's research into the fact that HSPs are very attracted to narcissists. In a personal case, it's based on admiration for people with a strong sense of self.
When we HSPs form relationships with people, we throw ourselves wholeheartedly into them. It means we get to experience the most incredible connections with people. But, on the flip side, it means the feeling of rejection is common and we often feel our relationships are one-sided. This is especially prominent in relationships (of all kinds) between HSPs and Narcissists.
My main emotion when dealing with a narcissist is confusion and due to this, curiosity. In most cases, I try to be rational - analyse the situation and deal with it like a normal, sensitive human being. But, the narcissistic mind confuses me and for that reason, I'd like to pose a few questions from the HSPs to the Narcissists...
N.B: Completely out of my own opinionated curiosity and in an intentionally unoffensive way.
Why don't you care?
That's my main one. Empathy is such a key trait in many HSPs and thus we can easily understand what the other person is feeling and relate to them. We make great listeners and trusted, loyal friends. So, we're often checking up on others with a quick text to say "How are you feeling?" But, over the past few years of being around narcissism, I have found that I am always the first one to initiate a conversation. To me, this comes across as someone who doesn't really care about me. Do you?
Sorry?
Is there a reason you seem to fear the word "Sorry"? This might not be true for all, but in my experience, a narcissist won't apologise without concrete proof that they're in the wrong. And even then they'll loathe you for making them say the 'S-word'. From an HSP's perspective, I cannot think of anything worse than accidentally offending someone. So, when someone is offended by your actions or, more often than not, your words, why do you so often respond with something like "Not my problem"? Isn't it just good manners to apologise?
Thoughts on speech?
Opening up, revealing secrets. We HSPs are all about over-sharing. Yes, it sometimes leads to hurt but can you really put blame on us for sharing something in confidence, only to find that the confident has decided it should be public knowledge? Is the idea that you want to prevent that from happening in the first place? Do you have trust issues? What is it that means you won't open up to us?
Aquaphobia?
It's not a bad thing to cry. It's why we have tear ducts. And it can't be good to build up so much emotion, can it? In my mind, this is such an impossible concept. I have to let a few tears slip every so often, just to stay sane! I have known narcissists to get defensive at the very mention of the word "upset". A narcissist's face is a mask and I find them near impossible to read. My question is, how do you keep your emotions so under control?
WHAT DO YOU THINK?
These are just a few of the many questions I have for the narcissistic mind.
We work in very different ways and no one way is better than another. But it really does baffle me...!
Are you a HSP, do you identify with narcissism, or are you somewhere in the middle? Let us know in the comments below!
I class myself as HSP - A Highly Sensitive Person (Google it, it's a genuine thing). There's research into the fact that HSPs...
Life has been a bit of a whirlwind for me this last month and I am ashamed to admit that I am not watching a lot of new things on Netflix. My list, however, its looking pretty extensive. Today, I thought I'd share some of the cool programmes and films sitting on my watchlist, just begging to be enjoyed. Hopefully it'll give me the motivation to actually go and watch them, and maybe you'll find something new too!
"Sophia, a misfit, discovers a passion for fashion, becoming an unlikely businesswoman in the process. As her business grows, however, she as to learn to cope with her life as her own boss. This show is loosely based on the true story of Nasty Gal Founder, Sophia Amoruso" - IMDB
Quirky? Sassy? Fashion? Online business woman? I am so in. I've watched a few episodes so far and while I'm not hooked, I am enjoying it. Sophia may come across a little obnoxious and dramatic but she's also witty and creative which I find really inspiring, and lets face it, those more 'negative' traits are probably only seen that way, because we are not used to seeing such powerful and uncompromising business women on TV, but that's another debate for another time. Either way, I need to make an effort to find more time to fit this show into my life, after all Sophia's business is a success, so there must be some lessons for me to learn in her story.
"The Discovery"
"Science, suicide and the meaning of life weave together in this mind-bending mystery; it all comes down to love." - Netflix
Mystery, science, death, love, Jason Segel? Yep, I'm in. Even the trailer just looks so well put together. Give it a watch as I'm not sure what else to say besides the fact that I need to find a quiet evening to tuck myself away and disappear into this.
"13 Reasons Why"
"Follows teenager Clay Jensen, in his quest to uncover the story behind his classmate and crush, Hannah, and her decision to end her life." - IMDB
Let's be real, you've probably already heard of this, nay, watched it already. But I still haven't. I did watch the first episode a few weeks ago, again, wasn't hooked, but these things take time. I've heard so many great things about this series too that I feel like I am missing the zeitgeist if I don't get involved in a show that covers such a current topic.
"Iron Fist"
"Danny Rand resurfaces 15 years after being presumed dead. Now, with the full power of the Iron Fist, he seeks to reclaim his past and fulfil his destiny." - Netflix
This went straight on my list after enjoying Netflix's original "Marvel's Jessica Jones" series and absolutely LOVING it but I've still not actually bothered to press play yet. I did the same with Jessica Jones, it sat on my list for months before actually watching but then I was completely hooked once I started. I get the feeling I will be the same with this series, there's something about the Marvel universe that I really quite like, with all these extra-ordinary people colliding in each other's stories. Also the whole idea of having 'super powers' is a really cool idea to explore and thrilling to watch... Okay, fully convinced myself to watch this now, kthxbye.
Have you seen any of these? If you have please let me know your thoughts, I'd love to hear them!
Life has been a bit of a whirlwind for me this last month and I am ashamed to admit that I am not watching a lot of new things on N...
