ARGH! It's Hannah on a Sunday, waaaaatt?! Don't panic, our beloved Creative Director, Hollie, is not dead. She's taken a brie...
I class myself as HSP - A Highly Sensitive Person (Google it, it's a genuine thing). There's research into the fact that HSPs are very attracted to narcissists. In a personal case, it's based on admiration for people with a strong sense of self.
When we HSPs form relationships with people, we throw ourselves wholeheartedly into them. It means we get to experience the most incredible connections with people. But, on the flip side, it means the feeling of rejection is common and we often feel our relationships are one-sided. This is especially prominent in relationships (of all kinds) between HSPs and Narcissists.
My main emotion when dealing with a narcissist is confusion and due to this, curiosity. In most cases, I try to be rational - analyse the situation and deal with it like a normal, sensitive human being. But, the narcissistic mind confuses me and for that reason, I'd like to pose a few questions from the HSPs to the Narcissists...
N.B: Completely out of my own opinionated curiosity and in an intentionally unoffensive way.
Why don't you care?
That's my main one. Empathy is such a key trait in many HSPs and thus we can easily understand what the other person is feeling and relate to them. We make great listeners and trusted, loyal friends. So, we're often checking up on others with a quick text to say "How are you feeling?" But, over the past few years of being around narcissism, I have found that I am always the first one to initiate a conversation. To me, this comes across as someone who doesn't really care about me. Do you?
Sorry?
Is there a reason you seem to fear the word "Sorry"? This might not be true for all, but in my experience, a narcissist won't apologise without concrete proof that they're in the wrong. And even then they'll loathe you for making them say the 'S-word'. From an HSP's perspective, I cannot think of anything worse than accidentally offending someone. So, when someone is offended by your actions or, more often than not, your words, why do you so often respond with something like "Not my problem"? Isn't it just good manners to apologise?
Thoughts on speech?
Opening up, revealing secrets. We HSPs are all about over-sharing. Yes, it sometimes leads to hurt but can you really put blame on us for sharing something in confidence, only to find that the confident has decided it should be public knowledge? Is the idea that you want to prevent that from happening in the first place? Do you have trust issues? What is it that means you won't open up to us?
Aquaphobia?
It's not a bad thing to cry. It's why we have tear ducts. And it can't be good to build up so much emotion, can it? In my mind, this is such an impossible concept. I have to let a few tears slip every so often, just to stay sane! I have known narcissists to get defensive at the very mention of the word "upset". A narcissist's face is a mask and I find them near impossible to read. My question is, how do you keep your emotions so under control?
WHAT DO YOU THINK?
These are just a few of the many questions I have for the narcissistic mind.
We work in very different ways and no one way is better than another. But it really does baffle me...!
Are you a HSP, do you identify with narcissism, or are you somewhere in the middle? Let us know in the comments below!
I class myself as HSP - A Highly Sensitive Person (Google it, it's a genuine thing). There's research into the fact that HSPs...
Life has been a bit of a whirlwind for me this last month and I am ashamed to admit that I am not watching a lot of new things on Netflix. My list, however, its looking pretty extensive. Today, I thought I'd share some of the cool programmes and films sitting on my watchlist, just begging to be enjoyed. Hopefully it'll give me the motivation to actually go and watch them, and maybe you'll find something new too!
"Sophia, a misfit, discovers a passion for fashion, becoming an unlikely businesswoman in the process. As her business grows, however, she as to learn to cope with her life as her own boss. This show is loosely based on the true story of Nasty Gal Founder, Sophia Amoruso" - IMDB
Quirky? Sassy? Fashion? Online business woman? I am so in. I've watched a few episodes so far and while I'm not hooked, I am enjoying it. Sophia may come across a little obnoxious and dramatic but she's also witty and creative which I find really inspiring, and lets face it, those more 'negative' traits are probably only seen that way, because we are not used to seeing such powerful and uncompromising business women on TV, but that's another debate for another time. Either way, I need to make an effort to find more time to fit this show into my life, after all Sophia's business is a success, so there must be some lessons for me to learn in her story.
"The Discovery"
"Science, suicide and the meaning of life weave together in this mind-bending mystery; it all comes down to love." - Netflix
Mystery, science, death, love, Jason Segel? Yep, I'm in. Even the trailer just looks so well put together. Give it a watch as I'm not sure what else to say besides the fact that I need to find a quiet evening to tuck myself away and disappear into this.
"13 Reasons Why"
"Follows teenager Clay Jensen, in his quest to uncover the story behind his classmate and crush, Hannah, and her decision to end her life." - IMDB
Let's be real, you've probably already heard of this, nay, watched it already. But I still haven't. I did watch the first episode a few weeks ago, again, wasn't hooked, but these things take time. I've heard so many great things about this series too that I feel like I am missing the zeitgeist if I don't get involved in a show that covers such a current topic.
"Iron Fist"
"Danny Rand resurfaces 15 years after being presumed dead. Now, with the full power of the Iron Fist, he seeks to reclaim his past and fulfil his destiny." - Netflix
This went straight on my list after enjoying Netflix's original "Marvel's Jessica Jones" series and absolutely LOVING it but I've still not actually bothered to press play yet. I did the same with Jessica Jones, it sat on my list for months before actually watching but then I was completely hooked once I started. I get the feeling I will be the same with this series, there's something about the Marvel universe that I really quite like, with all these extra-ordinary people colliding in each other's stories. Also the whole idea of having 'super powers' is a really cool idea to explore and thrilling to watch... Okay, fully convinced myself to watch this now, kthxbye.
Have you seen any of these? If you have please let me know your thoughts, I'd love to hear them!
Life has been a bit of a whirlwind for me this last month and I am ashamed to admit that I am not watching a lot of new things on N...
We've all been there. You feel a bit peckish so you go to the fridge to look for last-night's leftovers and BAM... an empty fridge enters your vision like a huge pin to burst your cold-pizza bubble. Who... Ate... THE PIZZA? Oh wait. It was you, for breakfast.
Don't panic. We're going to have to do something called *gulp* cooking. Never fear clueless low-maintenance, living-off-the-leftovers chic, I've got you covered with 5 recipes you won't need to lift a saucepan to.
Don't panic. We're going to have to do something called *gulp* cooking. Never fear clueless low-maintenance, living-off-the-leftovers chic, I've got you covered with 5 recipes you won't need to lift a saucepan to.
1. French Toast
I never cease to be eating this. It's so simple to make and it ain't half bad for you either!
I never cease to be eating this. It's so simple to make and it ain't half bad for you either!
- Put bread in toaster. Don't toast it all the way, just so it's a little less flimsy.
- While bread toasts, beat an egg. (Optional: add cinnamon and nutmeg for flavour)
- Dunk partially toasted bread in egg. Soak on both sides.
- Fry on both sides. Cover in chocolate sauce and fruit.
2. Potato Skins
Warning: Requires use of an oven. Do not attempt if you are under 12 or an imbecile with hot things.
Warning: Requires use of an oven. Do not attempt if you are under 12 or an imbecile with hot things.
- Grab some jacket spuds. Prick them and microwave them for 5 minutes on each side. (Or use leftover spuds.)
- Cut jackets in half and scoop out the innards.
- Mash the innards and add whatever you like. I add grated cheese, mustard and cream cheese. Sour cream is also a tasty addition but I was all out!
- Put the mash back in the skins and bake at 180° for about 20 mins, depending on how crispy you want them.
Usually, I'd serve with a dollop of sour cream and coleslaw but today I mixed it up a little with some ham and pineapple. And speaking of pizza toppings...
3. Pizza Toast
I am actually so proud of myself for coming up with this one. I discovered it on study leave for my GCSEs. And yes, it's as great as it sounds.
I am actually so proud of myself for coming up with this one. I discovered it on study leave for my GCSEs. And yes, it's as great as it sounds.
- Lightly toast some bread.
- Cover bread with tomato puree
- Add grated cheese and toppings. I chose ham and pineapple chunks (don't hate me it's nice.)
- Grill. Serve. Eat.
4. The Best Soup Ever
Throw everything in a pot. Done.
Throw everything in a pot. Done.
- Grab your favourite veggies and cut them up into small, equal sized cubes.
- Grab leftover meats like chicken, beef or ham. Cut these up real good. I like to get mine to an almost shredded consistency.
- Throw everything in a big pot, cover with veg stock (or whatever meat stock you're using).
- Boil on medium heat and leave it alone for an hour while you go watch Netflix. Voila.
There's no picture because it's too hot, hot damn. Call the police and the fireman.
5. The Internet
If all else fails and your house burns down, log on to your favourite fast food website (not sponsored by Dominos but please sponsor us) and get food made for you, delivered to the pile of rubble at the end of Low-Maintenance Lane.
If all else fails and your house burns down, log on to your favourite fast food website (not sponsored by Dominos but please sponsor us) and get food made for you, delivered to the pile of rubble at the end of Low-Maintenance Lane.
I hope you enjoyed this little read. I'm off to make myself a roast dinner... Not. I can't cook - Dominos time!
We've all been there. You feel a bit peckish so you go to the fridge to look for last-night's leftovers and BAM... an empty fridge e...
If there's one talent I've always had, it's the ability to stay in - a lot. With the rise of Netflix binge watching, it seems a Friday or Saturday night spent indoors, is even more acceptable than ever. As an introvert, who often prefers a weekend at home to recuperate from busy office working days or social events, this is music to my ears. But there is definitely a skill to be honed in how to stay in on weekends.
It's all about atmosphere
Creating the right ambience is one of the main things I need for a good night in. If I'm getting my teeth stuck into a long and complex film such as Inception or Vanilla Sky, reading a book or writing, I need a darkened room, some fairy lights and maybe even a few candles. It all enhances the night in experience, creating a warm and cosy feeling.
Wearing the right attire
Yes, even a night in has a dress code. The key word is comfort, which for me can only mean pajamas, pajamas, pajamas. Whether its Winter and you're wrapped up in fluffy socks and a thermal shirt and trouser set, or Summer wearing just shorts and a vest. In all seasons, absolutely no bras or makeup required; its about minimum effort for maximum effect.
Good company or no company
I am someone who is very happy going about their business alone. I very much enjoy a night to myself, to watch or do whatever I want and not have to open my mouth or think before I speak for a whole 8 hours, in fact I relish in it. But if I do choose to have company, they have to be down for the above two steps, fortunately my bestie and I have lazy nights perfected! I think we get lazier with our appearance every time we hold one, but I wouldn't have it any other way.
For whatever reason, I have never been the person who loves going out. I actually find it exhausting, mentally more than physically. Perhaps its my introverted traits, my brain whirring at 80mph trying to process everything, that by the end, I need to watch an episode of Netflix to centre myself. My nights in are my time alone to pick myself up and get ready for another week ahead.
Are you someone that loves a night in?
If there's one talent I've always had, it's the ability to stay in - a lot. With the rise of Netflix binge watching, it s...
Dear 12 year old me,
First off, lose the fringe. It's not doing anything for that mature look you're going for. Secondly, welcome to this new and exciting (debatable) chapter of your life! In this part of our lifelong novel, we battle depression and suicidal thoughts, crippling anxiety and a weird emo phase where we wear nothing but black for three months. This is also the beautiful part of your life where you start exploring sexuality and more importantly, find out that girls look quite nice. In fact... Everyone does! You're pansexual, surprise! It seems daunting and honestly it's not the prettiest thing to go through. But you come out of it a strong, independent woman who don't need no-... Well actually that's a lie, you're needy af.
Here are some questions you likely have for your eighteen-year old counterpart -
What's sex and why should I care?
Ah yes, year 8 sex ed lessons aren't really that great, are they? Fond memories of asking the biology teacher the difference between an organism and an orgasm spring to mind. Well, at the moment, it won't matter much to you. Explore your own body first. Don't worry, you start your adult life a virgin too and we've still not seen a condom in the flesh.
At 12, with a sheltered, Christian upbringing, thinking about kissing a girl is essentially porn to you. You are disgusted and disappointed with yourself, but don't panic! You'll discover a cute little LGBTQ community online who'll explain lots of stuff to you. Lots of stuff. Possibly too much. Shut your ears innocent me!
Ahahahaha... I gotta laugh. Here's a fact for you, you go from a C to an F in six weeks before year 10. Look forward to back pains and sore breasts for a few months. You still have stretch marks, don't wish it on too soon.
August 8th 2013. Oh yeah you were well excited getting your period at last aged 14. Now, after countless blood tests and ruined bedsheets, the doctors still have no idea why you bleed for two weeks a month instead of one. But hey! We finally got over our fear of needles at last... We kind of had to!
Basically, you find a label you identify with called pansexuality. 'Pan' means 'all/any' and to you this means what they have in their pants isn't a factor on the datable scale. You love who you love and that's fine.
If I'm right in thinking it's either 2011 or 2012 right now, which means right about now. But be careful, it's not ever really official and the end is frightening and abusive. Hold your nerve and don't let him make you do anything you don't want to. You're not ready and you won't be for a while.
Yes we get a girlfriend. The relationship is beautiful, fiery and romantic and then it spirals down into a burning car crash. It's okay though. Through it, you find who your real friends are, make some new ones and strengthen bonds with close mates.
That's all I've got for you, 12-year old me. Sit tight, hold on.
The next few years are bumpy but remember, everyone's youths are messy. Try to have a bit of fun?
Dear 12 year old me, First off, lose the fringe. It's not doing anything for that mature look you're going for. Secondly, we...
Okay, so presumably you clicked on this post because you're 18-24 and are not going to vote in the upcoming General Election. As a 22 year old young British woman, I totally get it. I never had any real education on politics in school - my family are also not political, so throughout my teens, politics always seemed incomprehensible. That was until the last UK election in 2015, when I finally decided to buck up my ideas and get involved, as it was the first election I was actually old enough to vote in. I still quite firmly believe that General Elections are a load of codswallop and a lot of politicians are just very well taught manipulators, spewing shit. That said, Britain is my country and I reserve my right to have what little say in it I can. In this post I'm going to be debunking your excuses to help you realise that you too, should be exercising your right to vote. Let's start with...
EXCUSES
"My Vote Doesn't Make A Difference"
I cry, I weep, I cry; of course your vote makes a difference! If you never raise your concerns or opinions, then of course it won't. You actually have to pull your finger out and do something if you want to induce change. Remember how pissed we all were at the older generations deciding our future with Brexit? If more 18-24 year olds had voted, it may have been different. May that be a lesson to us all.
Really? Or have you just not done enough research? Same goes for "they're all as bad as each other" - we know that, the whole of the UK knows that. You just have to use your better judgement to pick a party that you think is the lesser of two evils (sigh). We're a generation who've grown up with information at our fingertips with the internet, there is nothing stopping you from doing some research about the parties; heck, there's even quizzes such as ISideWith to help you find out which party your beliefs coincide with. No excuses now.
I'll bet one of the reasons a lot of young people feel disconnected from politics is because we are not targeted. We're not targeted because not enough of us get involved. If a party know a lot of 60 year old men in a specific area of the UK are consistent voters, they're going to send a crap ton of campaign drivel their way, in order to win that vote, rather than trying to persuade a group of 18 year olds who may not even vote at all. If more 18-24 year olds actually started voting, maybe political parties might start taking an interest in trying to win our votes and tailor their campaigns accordingly. Just a thought.
If you really can't make a decision because you truly do not support any of the parties then fair play. But personally, I void any non-voters complaints on the winning party invalid - no vote, no opinion.
"I Feel Misrepresented By The Available Parties"
I'll bet one of the reasons a lot of young people feel disconnected from politics is because we are not targeted. We're not targeted because not enough of us get involved. If a party know a lot of 60 year old men in a specific area of the UK are consistent voters, they're going to send a crap ton of campaign drivel their way, in order to win that vote, rather than trying to persuade a group of 18 year olds who may not even vote at all. If more 18-24 year olds actually started voting, maybe political parties might start taking an interest in trying to win our votes and tailor their campaigns accordingly. Just a thought.
If you really can't make a decision because you truly do not support any of the parties then fair play. But personally, I void any non-voters complaints on the winning party invalid - no vote, no opinion.
MAKING AN INFORMED DECISION
Policies Over Prime Minister
You might not like Jeremy Corbyn or Teresa May or Tim Farron, but you're not actually voting for them. You're voting for their party and their policies. Make sure you research all of their manifesto's and select that one that you feel you agree with most; none of the PM's are running around doing whatever the hell they want, so if you feel like you support a party but not it's leader, research some of the other members of the party, see how you feel about them to get a broader view of the party as a whole.
Reason Over Rhyme
Just because a party announces they're putting 'x' million pounds into the NHS doesn't make it true, nor is it necessarily realistic. Yes, it all sounds very nice, but make sure the party give sound reasons and plans for all these fancy ideas. If they're not announcing the plans, get in touch - what's Twitter for if not for hounding public figures? Any vague wishy-washy answers they do give, do your research into these; let's not repeat Brexit's false immigration claims.
Don't Get Caught Up In Campaign Gimmicks
Nigel Farage and that bloody bus is all I'm saying💩....
I hope you found this post useful, but more than anything, I hope you're at least considering voting in the election.
Don't forget the deadline for registering to vote is tomorrow, Monday 22nd May 2017 at 11:59pm; you can do this here, if you haven't already.
May the odds be ever in Britain's favour.
18-24 Voters
- May 21, 2017
Dear 18-24 Year Olds Who Aren't Voting In The UK General Election on June 8th
Okay, so presumably you clicked on this post because you're 18-24 and are not going to vote in the upcoming General Election. As a ...
So here's the deal. Every year, a cohort of drama school graduates enter the big wide world of entertainment, CVs full to the brim with amateur dramatics productions, a head full of showbiz dreams and thicker skin than Shrek. They head out, trained with all the knowledge they need to tackle auditions and bag agents, primed with their headshot smile and enough black rehearsal clothing to permanently fill Ozzy Ozbourne's closet.
But, when they finally get their big chance... The spot's been filled by an X Factor reject, or some reality TV star who can just about sing their "do-ray-me"s, but can't act for toffee. The exception to this, of course, is the big-time star, brought in to boost ticket sales and bring the press to what some people may refer to as a "dying art". But the same still applies: It is rare that any of these people possess skills in all three disciplines. I would love to see the director's face in the first read-through with an A-Lister. Likely, hand would hit face before the first scene is done.
Is this the future then? Why bother going to drama school when you can sing 'Defying Gravity' on The Voice and immediately get snapped up by the West End? Are casting directors only looking for star quality and if so, what will happen to the young talent of today?
Theatre is supposed to be a craft, an art form. Just as you wouldn't have Kim K do the next exhibition at the Tate Modern, why put Brendon Urie (Panic! At The Disco) in 'Kinky Boots' heels? Granted, the guy can SING, but Broadway? It is evident that "stars" take priority over drama school graduates and it is simply because casting agents see them as a sure-fire way to get money.
And it's not just on the stage! The same applies on the silver screen. Emma Watson is a prime example of this. As one of the industry's biggest names, she's made Disney's 'Beauty and the Beast' the highest grossing live-action movie musical EVER, making over one billion dollars globally. Had this film not have starred Emma Watson, would it have done so well? We will never know. But I'm skeptical as to how much editing was involved in the autotune department and although the film itself was well made (see my full review of it here), I wonder if it was worth the slightly synthesised sound of the soundtrack.
Of course, most celebrities do have their talents. But, it does seem like the easy way in, especially in the case of reality TV stars, who have made the crossover to the stage/screen. Old Andrew Lloyd Webber shows like 'I'd Do Anything', finding the next West End star through a thorough audition process, provided audiences with a more realistic representation of the competitive industry. People like Samantha Barks and Jodie Prenger, contestants from Lloyd Webber's search for Nancy in 'Oliver', have emerged from that show with actual proof of talent, as well as exposure to the public.
To me, a young performer, director and writer, it makes much more sense to source the highest level of talent; a workable, mouldable actor/actress, to do your script justice. Surely, if you want to make the best production, get the best cast. As a desperate plea to filmmakers and casting directors alike: Give the newly-trained a shot. You never know, someday they could "make it" too. Theatre has been labelled as a "dying art" for years and it is for one reason: commercialisation. Stop the dollar-filled eyes and start creating... Really creating. Now that's true art.
So here's the deal. Every year, a cohort of drama school graduates enter the big wide world of entertainment, CVs full to the brim w...
So, you've got Coeliac Disease, IBS, a common bug, or some other medical condition whereby taking a crap is more in command of you, than you are of taking a crap. I hear you sister, I've been there, as Say Chic's resident Coeliac, sometimes needing to do a number two at work or in public is just a fact of life. If you ask me, there's no shame in it, we're all human and have a right to empty the tank in an appropriate environment wherever we may be. Sadly, not everyone in the world feels that way, so we have to do this sneakily to avoid the judgments of those around us. Luckily, today I'm chatting you through my rules for dropping the kids off at the pool, without anyone suspecting a thing - Cheeky.
Rule No. 1 - Always Toilet Paper First
The number 1 rule for a reason; all you do is simply place a few shreds of paper down the bowl before you go. The pre-toilet paper trick silences splash back and avoids any - ahem - evidence. That's right, now no matter where you are or if there are other people in the room outside your cubical, you can drop it like its hot, knowing no one heard a thing.
Rule No. 2 - Pick The Perfect Moment
Pretty obvious one, but registering when a popular time for people to wee is a great tool for picking the right time for you to sneak off and do your business with fewer or, we pray, no interruptions. Of course everyone wee's at lunchtime, or around 11am after the countless numbers of tea / coffee we've already drunk, but have been holding in, in order to finish that last email. Between 2-4pm is usually pretty quiet at my workplace, so perfect timing. Also handy if you're feeling a bit sluggish in the afternoon, take yourself away and have a little you time - you earned it!
Rule No. 3 - Take Your Time To Wee, Every Time
Talking of timing, this one requires establishing yourself as a slow wee-er from the early days of starting a job. I never rush myself or hurry back to my desk during toilet time - I've been working flat out for the last 2 hours, I deserve 5 minutes to have a relaxed wee a-thank you. Then, when you're usually gone for a couple of minutes while you pee anyway, no one will ever notice you being gone for the same amount of time for a number two either, hehehe.
Rule No. 4 - Mask The Honk
We're all human, okay. We cannot help if what comes out of us sometimes smells like something long dead. Growing up with an older brother, who often only needed poking in the arm for a fart to release, I am well accustomed to such smells. That said, leaving one behind in public is never well received, so you need to arm yourself. Check for air-freshener already provided in the room or cubical. If not, have one to hand in your bag; pretty sure we've all seen the new Air Wick V.I.Poo Pre-Poo sprays which are definitely worth a shot in my opinion. If all else fails, pick a toilet with multiple cubicles, (don't worry, if you're using rule no.1 no one will hear you!) then you can just tell people it already smelt like that when you walked in...
Talking of timing, this one requires establishing yourself as a slow wee-er from the early days of starting a job. I never rush myself or hurry back to my desk during toilet time - I've been working flat out for the last 2 hours, I deserve 5 minutes to have a relaxed wee a-thank you. Then, when you're usually gone for a couple of minutes while you pee anyway, no one will ever notice you being gone for the same amount of time for a number two either, hehehe.
Rule No. 4 - Mask The Honk
We're all human, okay. We cannot help if what comes out of us sometimes smells like something long dead. Growing up with an older brother, who often only needed poking in the arm for a fart to release, I am well accustomed to such smells. That said, leaving one behind in public is never well received, so you need to arm yourself. Check for air-freshener already provided in the room or cubical. If not, have one to hand in your bag; pretty sure we've all seen the new Air Wick V.I.Poo Pre-Poo sprays which are definitely worth a shot in my opinion. If all else fails, pick a toilet with multiple cubicles, (don't worry, if you're using rule no.1 no one will hear you!) then you can just tell people it already smelt like that when you walked in...
Rule No. 5 - Deny, Excuse, Deny
If on the unlucky chance, you meet one of those people that dare say 'you were gone a long time' - even if you were only gone a few minutes, prepare some excuses and never admit it. You've gone to all this effort to keep your business secret and avoid being labelled 'the office dumper' - particularly after a heated conversation whereby your entire team announced they all DESPISE and are DISGUSTED by the idea of dropping one at work. Say you met an old work colleague, your zip got stuck, you had to queue, you just needed a break! If you have coeliac disease or anything similar you'll know, the pain of suppression is not worth it, it's also very bad for your body, so you just have to go do it... Just don't tell them that.
I hope you find this set of rules useful; may we all go about our business discreetly. Remember - you didn't hear this from me.
If on the unlucky chance, you meet one of those people that dare say 'you were gone a long time' - even if you were only gone a few minutes, prepare some excuses and never admit it. You've gone to all this effort to keep your business secret and avoid being labelled 'the office dumper' - particularly after a heated conversation whereby your entire team announced they all DESPISE and are DISGUSTED by the idea of dropping one at work. Say you met an old work colleague, your zip got stuck, you had to queue, you just needed a break! If you have coeliac disease or anything similar you'll know, the pain of suppression is not worth it, it's also very bad for your body, so you just have to go do it... Just don't tell them that.
I hope you find this set of rules useful; may we all go about our business discreetly. Remember - you didn't hear this from me.
So, you've got Coeliac Disease, IBS, a common bug, or some other medical condition whereby taking a crap is more in command of you,...
As someone who never knows what her immune system is doing (or whether it is there at all), I have had a battle with eating for the past couple of months. It was only after talking to Hollie about my symptoms that she mentioned getting tested for Coeliac Disease. I went for a blood test yesterday and I'm hopefully going to see a dietitian after exam season is finished. If there is anything wrong with me, don't worry, you'll be the first to know because I'll be ranting about it all over my social media. But, in the meantime, I thought I'd do my homework and help raise some awareness for the disease, on this the most sacred of weeks for all our gluten-free friends. So I'm going to pester Hollie for some answers...
Q: Hello Hollie, thanks for letting me interview you! So, what's the story? How and when did you find out you're a coeliac?
A: I was 19 when I found out, but I'd been experiencing symptoms for about a year before I actually decided to go and do something about it. I kept blaming it on winter bugs or stress or just eating dodgy food, but when I started a performance of 'Grease' and was feeling constantly ill, I new something had to be done.
Q: What were the biggest symptoms that told you something might be wrong?
A: Excruciating pain in my gut is the worst one and only occurs when I've eaten a lot of gluten; I can deal with the multiple trips to the loo, but genuine physical pain is hard to ignore.
Q: What's the biggest change you've noticed since being diagnosed?
A: I've got my body and my life back. I don't have to be embarrassed about dermatitis on my hands or worrying about needing to use the loo at someones house or in public. More than anything my body just feels back to normal, I'm no longer constantly exhausted or ill.
Q: What gluten-containing product do you miss the most?
A: The day M&S release a Made Without Wheat version of their ham, cheese and pickle sandwich will be a very happy day for me. Also Chinese takeaway or grabbing a bag of chips from the chip shop is something I miss.
Q: What's the best piece of advice you can give to someone who thinks they might have Coeliac Disease?
A: Don't try to self diagnose, bodies are weird so your best bet is to go to the doctors and let them help you find out what's going on.
Q: Finally, has anything good come from your experiences?
A: I've learnt to listen to my body, not to ignore the signs of something being not right. It's better to get things checked than unknowingly damage your body. I've also learnt more about healthy food and cooking!
Well folks that's all but below are some clever little links you can use to educate
yourself about the facts and figures regarding Coeliac Disease.
See you next Wednesday!
yourself about the facts and figures regarding Coeliac Disease.
See you next Wednesday!
And here's a quick video from beyondceliac.org:
As someone who never knows what her immune system is doing (or whether it is there at all), I have had a battle with eating for the past co...
Drama has been a prominent part of my life since I was around 14 years old, and I can honestly say, it changed me as a person. It helped me realise who I wanted to be and grow in to the fab person I am today. For this reason, I feel its so important for kids to study or at least have the opportunity to get involved in drama at school or in their spare time. Here are 5 great things about studying / practicing drama.
Developing confidence
Waking up on a Saturday morning knowing I was off to drama classes was one of my favourite feelings for the 5 years I was attending - though I often struggled to actually get out of bed, the minute I got there I woke up. My fondest memories are of those days I spent drama playing games with friends whilst developing my performance skills and building the foundations for all my future career aspirations. My favourite part was capturing some of those memories on camera through short films, its so precious and special to keep and even revisit over the years (it also makes for great blackmail material).
It's informative / educational
Drama has taught me so much, not just about the industry and art of performing but about the world and most of all, about myself. I felt I was constantly learning and exploring new ideas; it never felt like a chore, or even a struggle. For me it was always natural and fun, like I was supposed to be there. I cannot imagine who I would have become if I'd never have studied it.
You'll learn self-acceptance
This is the big one. Most drama enthusiasts are pretty quirky, but our ability to understand the human condition means we are usually one big open and accepting community. It doesn't matter who you are, your passion and talent will be nurtured, and you'll realise that all your individual traits make you the performer and person that you are; you'll finally learn to respect that.
One of the first things I ever developed through drama was confidence. I've always been an introvert and an observer rather than participant, but drama gave me the kick up the bum I needed and brought me out of my shell. Now I can choose when and how to be bright and forthcoming, for example, at work or at social events, then return to my solitude in my own time.
Making new friends
This is the biggest and perhaps most powerful part of drama, it brings people together that may never have connected under any other circumstance. All of my closest and longest friendships were forged through drama groups / classes. It really is a one-of-a-kind bond created between those you perform shows with and the inside jokes will live on forever - seriously.
It's hella fun!Waking up on a Saturday morning knowing I was off to drama classes was one of my favourite feelings for the 5 years I was attending - though I often struggled to actually get out of bed, the minute I got there I woke up. My fondest memories are of those days I spent drama playing games with friends whilst developing my performance skills and building the foundations for all my future career aspirations. My favourite part was capturing some of those memories on camera through short films, its so precious and special to keep and even revisit over the years (it also makes for great blackmail material).
It's informative / educational
Drama has taught me so much, not just about the industry and art of performing but about the world and most of all, about myself. I felt I was constantly learning and exploring new ideas; it never felt like a chore, or even a struggle. For me it was always natural and fun, like I was supposed to be there. I cannot imagine who I would have become if I'd never have studied it.
You'll learn self-acceptance
This is the big one. Most drama enthusiasts are pretty quirky, but our ability to understand the human condition means we are usually one big open and accepting community. It doesn't matter who you are, your passion and talent will be nurtured, and you'll realise that all your individual traits make you the performer and person that you are; you'll finally learn to respect that.
So, are you ready and willing to join our cult now? Yes, I thought so.
Drama has been a prominent part of my life since I was around 14 years old, and I can honestly say, it changed me as a person. It helped...
My family calls it abnormal. My friends think it's impressive.
I don't think it's anything because I'm too low-maintenance to care.
I don't think it's anything because I'm too low-maintenance to care.
Picture the scene... You've come home from a long day at work and you're looking for something to relax yourself. What do you do?
a) Take a long, much needed shower - wash away those stressful vibes.
b) Change your clothes and clamber into bed to watch Netflix, complete with popcorn.
c) Absolutely f*cking nothing. Fall into your unmade bed, still in your work clothes and just lay there.
If you answered anything other than 'c'... congrats! You're less lazy, ehem, low-maintenance than me. I don't need an entertainment source after being far too stimulated at work. I am quite happy to lollop into the bed I couldn't be bothered to make in the morning, with nothing but my own thoughts to send me into napland.
On the subject of showering...
I find it a physical impossibility to spend any more than 12 minutes in the shower. That is my record and I was really trying to be slow. My fastest is around 3 minutes and on average I take no more than 5. Upon asking my 15-year old sister, she worked out she spends about 25 minutes in the steam cage and Hollie, our wonderful Creative Director, can be gone a good 45 minutes when she says she's off to wash.
Lemme break it down.
- Enter shower. Wet hair and body. (20 seconds)
- Shampoo and rinse. (1 minute)
- Repeat. (1 minute)
- Apply conditioner to ends of hair. (10 seconds)
- While we wait for conditioner to absorb, wash body and shave armpits. (2 minutes)
- Get out.
That is my typical 4 and a half minute shower. Call it 5 if I drop the conditioner bottle on my foot and cry because I can't be asked to pick it back up. If I decide to treat myself, add 10 minutes (maximum) for shaving my legs. But usually I do this in the bath and lying in hot water, steaming for an hour, is a totally different activity.
Will someone please tell a low maintenance girl what 20 minute activity I'm missing while showering?
My sister gave an answer along the lines of "olive oil hair mask... deep conditioning... scrubbing and buffing" (whatever that means).
Bed Décor
The shrine in every high-maintenance gal's home is their majestic double bed, laden with throws, quilts and an excessive amount of cushions. When Hollie comes over, I make a desperate attempt to look like I have my life together by throwing picnic rugs and cheap mismatched cushions on top of a duvet. Underneath that is a mattress with no sheet on, because I kicked it off during the night and decided I couldn't be bothered to put it back on.
Now, I know you don't sleep with all that on your bed. Why? Because there's about a foot of space for your body compared to all the cushions you've got going on. You throw them off if you ever need to use your bed, otherwise they are a room accessory.
I must say, I envy your interior design skills, but I am way too low maintenance to buy things that will end up on my floor. There isn't the space for them anyway. I have all the stuff that doesn't fit in the drawers I haven't cleaned out down there.
Photos
I'm talking 'Instagram Themes'. The thing about high-maintenance girls is that they do life so effortlessly, they just know that it is something they have to keep up to get by. Your instagram is like a storyboard of a Marilyn Monroe movie. You have an effortless natural glow to all your shots which says "All natural. I didn't spend thirty minutes planning, shooting and editing this." You would have me fooled, but I know what all natural means. Just take a look at my basic Insta account. Here's how I take photos:
- Find a source of light, preferably a window but really I don't care.
- Load phone camera.
- Smile. I don't pout because I look like a fish when I do.
- Take pictures. Usually about 5.
- Pick one. If all of them look ugly, give up and try again when you're not on your period.
- Stick an Instagram filter on it.
- Upload.
Recently, I have discovered an app called AirBrush, which I spoke about briefly in our launch post. It lets you edit loads of things like lighting, acne, under-eye circles all in different categories and it has a whole bunch of filters to scroll through!
Or, alternatively, if you're low-maintenance like me, there's an 'Auto' feature which does everything for you.
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Hope you've enjoyed reading this little one. I'll see you next Wednesday!
My family calls it abnormal. My friends think it's impressive. I don't think it's anything because I'm too low-mainten...
It's MAY 1ST! Which means launch day is finally here for us at Say Chic and we cannot wait to deliver all the articles we have coming up for you. Prepare yourselves for lifestyle, craft, reviews and quirky editorials every Wednesday and Sunday starting this week. Before our regular posts begin, we bring a special Q&A session with our co-founders, Hollie and Hannah, and their elderly resident cat, Barney.
Q: How did the blog come about?
A: Both of us have maintained personal blogs for some time, so it felt only right to collaborate on a project together. Plus, we work together outside of blogging too, so it's something we knew from the get-go would work.
Q: Why 'Say Chic'?
A: We would love to say that it came from months of thoughtful planning however, it is merely the result of too much sugar consumption, a fixation with Paris and sleep-deprivation, caused by late night Facebook chats. Thus, when 'Say Chic' was suggested, as a spur-of-the-moment comment, it somehow sounded right and the blog was born!
Q: How did you both meet?
A: We met through a youth theatre company and found we were two kindred spirits, with a mutual love of cats, comedy and The 1975.
Q: What three things are you loving at the moment?
Hollie: I am completely hooked on podcasts at the moment, particularly 'The Guilty Feminist', which is essentially a comedy show focused on important issue's faced by women. I've been playing a dangerous game of listening to it at work and trying not to laugh out loud. I've also just started watching the 'Avatar: The Last Airbender' TV series, and it's awesome, I'm loving it. Finally photography is something I'm beginning to explore further since its such a prominent part of blogging, it's really cool to be able to practice a new skill and it's reminded me how much I love learning new stuff!
Hannah: Blogwise, I've been really loving 'Oh So Beautiful Paper', which is a craft and stationery blog and it really is beautiful! They post cute and satisfying designs which help to brighten up my newsfeed on Bloglovin'! I'm loving flowers, having received three bouquets during the show week of 'Peter Pan'. Also, the app 'AirBrush' for Android. It works wonders making photos look neat and professional!
Hannah: Blogwise, I've been really loving 'Oh So Beautiful Paper', which is a craft and stationery blog and it really is beautiful! They post cute and satisfying designs which help to brighten up my newsfeed on Bloglovin'! I'm loving flowers, having received three bouquets during the show week of 'Peter Pan'. Also, the app 'AirBrush' for Android. It works wonders making photos look neat and professional!
Barney: At present, I can tolerate my human, Hollie, she's okay. The food they feed me is adequate, however I'm not sure I love it. Sleeping the majority of my day! Now that, I am enjoying.
Q: Who influences / inspires you the most?
Hollie: For me, it has to be brilliant women such as Brit Marling, Kate Winslet, Anne Hathaway and Miranda Hart.
Hannah: 😏 Obviously Hollie.
Barney: Mufasa, the one true lion king (RIP).
Q: You're stranded on a desert island and can only take: one beauty item, one everyday item and one person. What do you choose?
Hollie: Beauty item would have to be lip balm, chapped lips are a nightmare; everyday item would be my phone so I could watch Netflix and take photos of the hopefully beautiful surroundings. As for a person, I reckon I'd go for Jack Whitehall! As a comedian he'd definitely keep me entertained, plus he's easy on the eyes. I could be wrong but I can't imagine him being savvy in the wild, but at least we could laugh about it and maybe write a winning sitcom about our experience after we've been rescued.
Hannah: Some form of hand and body lotion because I am notoriously bad for dry skin. For everyday, probably my phone - calling for help, obviously... Then, an odd choice, Dougie Poynter from McFly. He's won 'I'm A Celebrity' so I figure he'd be pretty good in the wild. That and his cheeky lil' face would likely keep me entertained!
Barney: Well a beauty item is of course, a brush, because how else am I going to maintain my beautiful appearance? Everyday item has to be my bed and I would probably take my human, Hollie, with me because she is my bitch.
Q: Name five places that you really want to visit.
Hollie: Oh how I'd love to go to Paris again, (hehe) also Dublin, Galway, Rome and Japan!
Hannah: Ireland, Amsterdam, Japan, New York and Disneyland Florida! I want to get out and see the world and I'd really love to do some travel writing someday. That and Disney is always going to be on my bucket list.
Barney: I did all that in my youth, I'm happy with a decent meal and a warm radiator to sit by...
Q: What's the most embarrassing song in your iTunes / Spotify?
Hollie: 'The Lord of The Dance' by The Dubliners? Wait, thats not embarrassing. How about S Club? S Club Juniors? Disney? Whigfield??? Nah, I don't think I can answer this question...
Hannah: A few gems from my Spotify; Firstly, I have saved the instrumental version of 'Breaking Free' from High School Musical. I won't try justify that one. I have Britney's 'Womanizer'. I won't pretend I don't know the whole Just Dance choreography. I also have a playlist called 'Zen', which is a lot of white noise/ASMR-type music, for when I do mindfulness meditation or yoga. Eek.
Barney: Personally I enjoy listening to birds chirping because I just bloody love reminiscing about the days when I was agile enough to catch them. I do not own any embarrassing music, fools.
Q: What three topics do you think are important to be discussing right now?
Hollie: Feminism, promoting good health/wellbeing and the 18-24 voters.
Hannah: The 18-24 voters, sexual awareness and funding for the arts subjects in schools!
Barney: When the bloody hell I agreed to this interview??DON'T FORGET -
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It's MAY 1ST! Which means launch day is finally here for us at Say Chic and we cannot wait to deliver all the articles we have coming u...
